Get your booty shakin’ and your sex life quakin.’ Or so say the sexperts! It turns out exercise is good for more than buns of steel. It also promises tons of squeal…in the bedroom. Or maybe it’s the steel causing the squeal? 😉 Either way, that’s quite the incentive for squeezing in some sweat time. But forcing that overstressed, overworked tired tushy to hit the gym and squeeze an hour of sweat from the sour lemon that is our day? Not exactly ap-pealing. The excuses mount, no? No time. No energy. Too many chores. Too little willpower. But what if a regular workout routine were to increase our sex drive and deliver better orgasms? Hmmm, squeezing a drop of sweat from that sour lemon of a day may just get us lemon-Laid!
Studies show just that. Regular exercise does indeed deliver an enhanced sex drive. Over a sustained period of time, sweating it out releases endorphins causing a “runner’s high.” We feel good inside and out. Working out elevates our mood and makes us feel calm, confident, and in control. That confidence acts as an aphrodisiac giving us the gas needed to rev our engines and finish the race with a ‘bang.’ Men AND women who routinely exercise show decreased stress, enhanced sex drives, and better orgasms. And the more intense the workout, the more successful the aphrodisiac.
After years of marriage, kids, work, and chores, we need all the self-seduction we can muster up. Ruts and exhaustion make it easy to fall into a pattern of poor body image, lack of energy, and loss of sexual spark…especially for women. Unlike men, women can’t pull rabbits from their hats (or snakes from their drawers) and forget all problems except a need for orgasm. Every emotional issue and unresolved thought she has will accompany her into the bedroom. Insecurity, distraction, depression, anxiety, chores, kids, that damn mosquito buzzing around somewhere in the room. All flooding her brain leaving her little or no room for choreographing and executing that strip tease she’d otherwise planned. Bummer!
Perhaps one of the top sexual inhibitors is insecurity. And women aren’t the only ones who bear the weight of a tubby devil on the shoulder reminding them of every imperfection. Today’s men are just as body conscious…worrying whether they’re buff enough and up to snuff. “Will she be satisfied? Will I be enough? Will she be disappointed?” (Fellas, women are much less physically critical of their partners than men. For her, it’s more about emotion and spark and less about six packs and rib-reachers.) We all want to feel good about ourselves…good about what we’re bringing to the table. And if we’re confident in that, dessert will be that much sweeter.
Research shows that vigorous exercise primes women’s bodies for sex. That it gets us in the mood and makes us feel all hot and bothered. Well, so does the sight of her sultry hubby vacuuming the floor or preparing dinner. Now, that fantasy whopper could be a real panty dropper…if only it were utilized. 🙂 Clearly, exercise is hot…in more ways than one. Not only do we feel more attractive and frisky when we work out…but sometimes, just watching taut sweaty bodies working it is enough to prime the most “out of service” sexual engines. Then again…sometimes NOT!
Experts say the correlation between sex drive and exercise is the product of both physical and emotional stimuli. Physically, when we exercise, we get our blood pumping. We raise our heart rate and increase circulation…not only to our brains (which is the most sexual organ)…but also to the genitals. With more blood pumping south, we’re open for business. We respond quicker to sexual stimuli, experience heightened sensation, and are more eager to get it on.
Not only do we become more physically fit, more aesthetically pleasing, and friskier than usual…we also benefit emotionally…become more confident. We FEEL sexier…more alive. We’ve achieved eye candy status and we’re now confident enough to say “Eat me.” Exercise is good for our self-esteem, our body image, and our state of mind. It lowers stress, reduces depression and anxiety, and gives us a newfound love of self. With a more elated state of mind, less stress to bog us down, and the empowering sense of sexiness, we become more comfortable with our bodies. And therefore more open to new sexual endeavors and more in touch with our body’s sensations. When the mind is free from stress and insecurity, it’s free to enjoy the body. Inhibition demolition.
Promising less stress, less depression, more confidence, more sex, and better orgasms…exercise just rendered all excuses null and void. It’s cheaper than therapy and the couch won’t be the only thing getting laid.
Arousal begins in the brain and travels south. Working out makes us feel sexy and confident…and gets our blood pumping in all the right places. If we feel sexy, we’ll BE sexy.
So feel the burn…and the yearn! Shake it. 🙂
“Movement is a medicine for creating change in a person’s physical, emotional, and mental states.” ~Carol Welch